sometimes I feel I’m between the rock and hard place of “don’t speak up about issues that don’t affect you” and “don’t let casual racism/sexism/ableism etc. slide when you hear it from members of the privileged group you’re in.”
I am a white, cis, neurotypical, physically able asexual woman. I want desperately to do right by the people I care about but I get mixed messages sometimes, from both people I know personally and people I don’t. In the past I’ve sometimes made an ass of myself about these things and I recognize that I should have handled it better but such incidents have made me unsure about how I should handle similar ones in the future.
I don’t want to do nothing even though I recognize it’s not my place to speak for groups I’m not a part of. but isn’t part of trying to change things getting people on your side?